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How To Have Oral Sex

By: Robert D. Thomson

Cunnilingus and fellatio - two words that certainly are a bit of a mouthful!

OK, OK, forgive the pun. It's perhaps only funny if you're receiving frequent oral sex. And how many people do? Perhaps less than you think. One of my oldest friends once confided to me that he couldn't convince his wife to go down on him - to give him fellatio. And was he ever having the opportunity to go down on her? No way - she made that clear from the start of their relationship.

He was desperately gloomy about it, partially because he knew how good it feels, but also because he knew how much enjoyable pleasure she would get if she let him try it on her. But she seemed to be obsessed by the belief that the genitals were "dirty", and nothing would induce her to let a mouth anywhere near them. Ironically, did she but know it, the healthy feminine vagina is an extremely pleasant place - much cleaner than the mouth in terms of bacteria are concerned.

Most men know exactly just how pleasurable it is to receive oral sex, though many have told me they enjoy offering it to a woman almost as much. But women seem to be more unwilling to give oral sex than to obtain it. If you're a man in this position, what's to be done? Many of the web sites on this subject are not written in a female-friendly way, and could easily be off-putting rather than encouraging if you were to present a hesitant partner to them. But if a woman is loath to perform fellatio when you want her to, anything more than gentle persuasion could develop into a big relationship problem.

In the end, you might have to consider what is more important to you. And guys, let's have a bit of sensitivity over this: it is every partner's right to say "No" to sexual activites which they find unappealing.

But it's also important to get to the root of a woman's anxiety about oral sex: is it that she might choke? Or that you might come in her mouth? These fears are understandable: semen might not taste as pleasant as you think, and it can surely absorb the flavor of what you've lately eaten, especially spices (e.g. curry) and beer. Worst of all, so I am told, is asparagus.

Of course if you can't get your female partner to give you fellatio, it's a disappointment, and it may infer some fairly pressing sexual issues. Perhaps she believes sex itself is "dirty", and good girls don't do that kind of thing. Maybe her position would change if you spent some time indulging her oral sexual pleasure? If this doesn't work, or if she doesn't want you to do it to her, then talking about it may help to resolve the underlying issues.

The saddest thing of all is that cunnilingus (the use of the partner's tongue, lips and mouth on a woman's sexual organs) seems to be one way in which most women can achieve orgasm fairly easily. A survey by Men's Health magazine revealed that oral sex by men for women was "one of the most favorite and exciting sexual activities that a man could offer to a woman; over and over again, the women said how greatly they loved it." It also has been ranked as the most satisfying action a man can do for a woman. In another survey 81% of women said that they could come to orgasm through oral sex.

It stands to reason, because I can't think of anything more exciting right now than the bouquet and taste of a vagina. So close to their lover, most men will become extremely aroused, and their bigger energy and enthusiasm will feed their lover's feeling of being loved and wanted: it's very flattering for a woman to know that she turns her partner on so profoundly. Furthermore, there is a profound significance in the act of "going down" on a woman - something to do with her being admired, something that says how she is respected and loved.

We're still driven at some deep level by our animal line, and even though I understand for some men and women that the "animalistic" aspects of sex can be a bit off-putting, possibly we should just allow ourselves to respond to our fundamental desires and enjoy the openly stimulating sights and scents of a partner's intimate regions.

But if the smell and taste of your partner's genitals actually does trouble you, then why not work a welcoming} bath and massage session into your lovemaking? And of course this particular problem cuts both ways, for men sometimes need to ensure their hygiene is up to scratch.

The best way to find out how to give oral pleasure to a woman is to listen to what your partner says she wishes. But you can make a good start by studying a fantastic account of how to do oral sex on a web-site that contains a complete description of cunnilingus, written sensitively and imaginatively for men: http://www.my-penis.org/

One final point - there is a small number of men who find the idea of orally pleasuring their partners an uncomfortable one. So try this picture: in ancient Chinese art, a woman's genitals are often depicted as a peony flower. And if you take a smell of a peony, your face is engulfed in a huge, aromatic load of pink petals. Delicious!

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Rod Smith is a writer with www.my-penis.org..

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